Archive for November 23rd, 2006

The Obligatory Post

Today is Thanksgiving.  This day includes an element of history for me.  I am one of a (surprisingly large, actually) number of people who can trace ancestry right back to that group of persecuted Huguenots that arrived at Plymouth Colony in 1621, after a particularly horrible and terrifying voyage on the Mayflower.  My particular Mayflower ancestor is Doty, who was a servant to one of the main participants.

Whenever you go to a Mayflower Society gathering, they read the list of Pilgrim ancestors, and as each name is read the descendants of the person rise and are acknowledged.  Interestingly enough, it is the descendants of the various servants on board that are the most numerous, and the Doty descendants are the most numerous of all.  Maybe it has something to do with being a person who is intimately involved in the preparation and serving of food that accounts for the fact that the servants survived better.  Who knows?

Anyway, in addition to having a Mayflower ancestor, I also have ancestors that were busy on both sides of the Revolutionary War, and also on both sides of the Civil War.  I have a Mohawk Indian in my ancestry, and possibly some freed slaves passing for white in Alabama, although that is not a certainty.

I am thankful for the incredible past that my ancestors shared in that brought us to this place of prosperity.  I am thankful that my ancestors were such survivors that I have a long line of longevity to bank on as I look towards my future.   

At the same time I am grateful for those things, my gratitude is mingled with shame and sorrow that so many indigenous people died in the European quest for domination of this continent.  I am ashamed of my ancestor’s part in the trashing of the environment we live in.  I worry about the consequences of those, and our present, acts.

But I am grateful for my present prosperity.  I am grateful for my good health.  I am grateful for the unconditional love my dog gives me.  I am grateful for the asperity and the demands of my cats.  I am grateful for the education I received thanks to my parents commitment to paying for it.   I am grateful that life brought me to a line of work that I love so much and that I am so good at.

I am grateful for our adopted son, Jesse, who came into our life so late.  I worry about him, though, since he is in the US Army and he carries such a large load of baggage from his childhood.  My wish for him is a good life, and healing from that trauma.

I saved the best for last.  I am so very, very grateful for Jim, the wonderful man I married.  Somehow, he was raised with such values and  has such internal goodness that responsibility, honor and integrity permeate his life and actions.  Once he has committed himself to a relationship, loyalty,  respect, and love are what informs his actions in that relationship.  I reap the benefit of that character, and his intelligence.

We have a very special bond.  I knew when I met him that he was “The One.”  Until that moment, I did not believe in love at first sight, or soul mates, or all that other romantic claptrap.  Only, I guess it isn’t claptrap.  It was love at first sight, and he is a soul mate. 

There are so many things that he does with me and for me I really can not list them all.  It begins with all the yard work and home maintenance he does, continues with the gourmet food he loves to prepare, and goes on into intimacies that are deeply wonderful, not communicable (and really no one else’s business).  I can’t imagine life without him.  And I am so thankful that I had a chance to experience it with him.

May you all have a happy day, and continue to be blessed with numerous things to be thankful for.   Blessed be. 

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